How to Heal Yourself from Fear, Shame and Guilt — The 7 Chakra Meditation
Surely a man needs a closed place wherein he may strike root and, like the seed, become. But also he needs the great Milky Way above him and the vast sea spaces, though neither stars nor ocean serve his daily needs.
Antoine de Saint-Exupery
Warning: In this article, imma go all spiritual on your ass!
In my pursuit of becoming the best version of myself, I studied conversations, interviews, books, podcasts, and habits of ultra-successful people. My Idea was that if I identified patterns, and habits and routines of the successful I might become successful myself. And one habit was popping up over and over again: Meditation. It seems that most of the super successful people in the world have some sort of meditative practice. To name a few: Katy Perry, Madonna, Hugh Jackman, Clint Eastwood, Nicole Kidman, Oprah, Kobe Bryant, Arianna Huffington, Jerry Seinfeld and many more. 1
I normally do my mindfulness exercises in the morning. It’s the first thing I do when I get up. I find that to be the best way to start the day. It gets me in balance before the busyness and hecticness of the day kicks off.” Kobe Bryant
I started my search for mindfulness in a period of my life where I was not as happy as I wanted to be. But I thought that if I would just plain model my behavior after the habits of happy and successful people maybe I would get similar results. I thought that if they can do it, so can I.
So I started with a guided meditative practice from Mindvalley which is called six phase meditation. I wrote a fairly short article about it. Click here to read it
The 6 Phase Meditation is a very positive meditation, it focuses on gratitude and future visualization. It is like a best of mash-up of all the best-guided meditations. But Something was missing, it somehow felt incomplete to me. In my opinion, in order to really heal ourselves, we must go beyond the positive. Only by confronting our fears and letting go of our blockages we can truly move forward. Questions like: What are you most afraid of? What do you blame yourself for? What are you ashamed of? What are your biggest disappointments in yourself? What are you sad about? What lies do you tell others and yourself? What are you attached to? I hope that after this article and doing the suggested meditation that you will be able to answer these questions for yourself. And with that free yourself.
After some research, I found out that there is a guided meditation that deals with this blockages: the 7 Chakra meditation.
..so what are the 7 Chakras
What is Chakra?
Chakra is Sanskrit and it stands for “wheel circle”. It is believed to be a psychic-energy center in the esoteric traditions of Indian religions. 2
Think of it as wheels of energy throughout the body. There are seven main chakras, which align the spine, starting from the base of the spine and go all the way up to the head. Imagine a swirling wheel of energy where matter and spirit and consciousness meet. This invisible energy is called Prana, it is the vital life force, which keeps us strong, energetic, happy and alive. In the video below you hear a guru explain the Pranic System and the 7 Chakras.
What are the 7 Chakras
One of my favorite cartoons is Avatar, the last Airbender. The show plays in a fictional alternate world where people are able to manipulate the 4 elements ( earth, water, air, fire). The protagonist Aang, a small monk boy is the avatar which means that he is the only person in the world who can bend more than one element, in fact, he can bend all 4 of them. And with this power, it is his destiny to bring balance to the world.
Why am I drifting off and writing about a cartoon?
Because there is a beautiful and fairly accurate description of the 7 chakras in the show. In the video below a guru explains Aang how to open all of the 7 Chakras. Watch it now :
Have you watched the video?! No? Damn you are even lazier than me, now watch the video then continue reading.
1. Muladhara or Root Chakra
The Muladhara Chakra is also called the Root Chakra and it is located at the base of the spine. This Chakra deals with survival and it is blocked by fear. In order to cleanse this Chakra, you have to face what you are afraid of the most and let it go. Please watch the video below.
The scene above is from the movie the empire strikes back. Luke Skywalker trains with his master Yoda and is sent into the “Evil Cave”. In this Cave, Luke has to confront what he is most afraid of. So in order to cleanse this Chakra, you have to face your biggest fear, or fear itself.
Personal note: Caution soul striptease ahead.
I believe that everything we do in life is either to gain pleasure or avoid pain. Fear itself is a survival mechanism that’s sole purpose is to protect us from pain. In my opinion, Depression( which I struggled with from time to time) is an overreaction to fear. You and your Brain have together decided that everything in this world brings you pain, therefore it is only logical to not get out of bed anymore for example. This of cause is a wrong conclusion and is called psychological terms a wrong neural association. I think therefore it is important that we at a certain point conquer the fear of survival itself, and show our brain that we are in charge. In order to fully conquer this fear, for example, I jumped out of an Airplane although I’m afraid of heights (which is funny fear to have when you are a 2-meter tall giant). I wanted to show my brain and myself that I’m in charge and that I act in spite of fear. So ask yourself what are you most afraid of? What would you encounter in the evil cave?
2. “Svadhishthana” or Sacral Chakra
The second Chakra is located at the center of your lower belly. This Chakra deals with pleasure and is blocked by guilt. In order to cleanse this Chakra you have to confront yourself: what do you blame yourself for?
Did you let somebody down? Did you hurt someone that was close to you? Did fail your parents or your spouse?
In order to cleanse the Sacral Chakra, you have to accept that these things happened. And that you need to let go and forgive yourself.
Case Study: Peter Parker ( secretly known as Spiderman)
Peter Parker was bitten by a radioactive spider and developed super-Powers. Shortly after he participated in a wrestling event which he won. The Prize Money was 2000 $. The organizer of the event was a crook and he did not want to give Peter Parker the full prize money. Peter was very angry about this of course. Peter walks out of the door. 5 minutes later another guy walks in and robbed the organizer with a gun, and although Peter Parker could have helped the organizer he does not because he wronged him. Later that day that same criminal kills Peter Parkers Uncle. Now Peter blames himself for the death of his Uncle. Peter becomes all depressed which messes up his superhero endeavors and even his relationship with his beloved mary jane. In the video below you can see how his aunt tells him that he needs to forgive himself.
3.“Manipura” or Solar Plexus Chakra
The third Chakra is located in the stomach and deals with willpower. And it is blocked by shame.
In order to cleanse this chakra, you have to ask yourself “what are you ashamed of? And what are your biggest disappointments in yourself?
In order to open this Chakra, you need to love and accept all aspects of you, not only the good ones. Your mistakes also made you who you are and you can not escape this darker part of you, even if this part is not pretty at all. You are human and therefore you make mistakes.
We all fuck up, and some(like me for example) more than others. Since time machines are not yet available(Hurry Elon!) we can not travel back and change the things that happened. We can not undo things. But what we can change is our relationship towards the things that happened.
In my opinion, one of the biggest differences between successful people and unhappy people is their approach towards problems. While depressed people, for example, focus on the problem, successful and happy people focus on the solution. Reflection is important, yes, but reliving your failures over and over again only brings out self-punishment in my opinion.
4 “Anahata” or Heart Chakra
The fourth Chakra is located in the heart, and it deals with love, and it is blocked by grief. In order to open this Chakra, you need to lay out all your grief in front of you. What are your losses? What are you sad about?
Dealing with loss is a hard thing to do indeed. But the eastern spiritual tradition believes that love is energy and that lost love is reborn in form of new love. Ask yourself what is the deepest, most painful loss you ever experienced? A loss of a job? A loss of health? A loss of a friend? A loss of a family member? A loss of your beloved?
How did you ever get over it? Are you maybe still holding on to it?
Loss is something everybody has to deal with. Click here to read my article on how to turn trauma and loss into your own superpower. The following case example is a story that shook me to my core but also inspired me and showed me that we as humans can overcome anything.
Case study: Irina Lucidi
Both daughters of Irna Lucidi were kidnapped in 2006 by Irenias Husband. They walked out of the door in order to get to their school and this was the last time she saw them. Her Husband kidnapped the two daughters and later committed suicide. So it is unknown if the two daughters are still alive or not.
How as a human can you deal with such a loss? Irena, of course, was torn and she went through all the 4 stages of grief which are
I believe that we as humans need to have a sense of control in our life in order to feel happy. This, in my opinion, is one of the reasons why it is so hard for traumatized persons to be happy. Irina lived in a constant state of fear. The fear that something unpredicted would happen to her again. And she asked the question: Why me?
But then she did something that inspired me to no ends. She had a vision of her children in the darkness and she wanted to bring them to the light. She changed the question. Instead of asking why me? she asked herself: How can I use this devastating tragedy to make the world a better place?
In consequence of this changed mental approach, she founded the Missing Children Switzerland organization. Click here to see the website and to donor to their cause.
To use something this tragic and turn it into something that made the world a better place is in my eyes truly inspirational. And if she can do it, so can you.
5 “Vishuddha” or Throat Chakra
The fifth Chakra is located in the throat and deals with sound Chakra. It deals with Truth and it is blocked by lies. Lies that we tell ourselves and lies that we tell others. What part about yourself are you in denial in? What lies do you tell others and yourself?
Case study: Disney’s Gaston /Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Gaston is a fictional character from Walt Disneys ” Beauty and the Beast.
He is a guy who is completely focused on impressing other persons. He does this because his own true view of himself is that he is not enough. He does everything that he can in order to convince and distract others from what he believes he really is, which is that he thinks he is nothing. In order to compensate this feeling of inadequacy, he plays a huge charade to convince others constantly that he is someone. He has become the manifestation of lies that he is telling himself.
Click here to read my article about the psychological mechanism of feeling not enough.
In order to open the 5th Chakra, you have to face your lies. You have to accept your true self and love it unconditionally.
“Above all, don’t lie to yourself. The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or around him, and so loses all respect for himself and for others. And having no respect he ceases to love.”
― Fyodor Dostoyevsky,
6 “Ajna” or Third Eye Chakra
The sixth Chakra is located between the eyes and it deals with insight and it is blocked by illusion. In yogic metaphysics, it is believed that one of the biggest illusions humans have is the illusion of separation. The illusion that we are separated from the rest of the world. Because in fact, we are all one. In the video below the third Eye is explained by a spiritual master from India who is called Sadhguru.
If you open this chakra it is said that you can see everything clearly, everything that is inside you and everything that is outside of you.
7 “Sahasrara” Crown Chakra
The Crown Chakra is the seventh Chakra. it is located at the top of the head and it deals with pure cosmic energy and it is blocked by attachment.
In order to open this Chakra, you must let go of all earthly attachment. What are you attached to? Money? Prestige? Love? Sex? It is said that in order to open this Chakra you need to let go of all earthly attachments.
Click here to read more about the Crown Chakra. One of the ways to heal and open the crown Chakra is a part of the 6 phase meditation. Click here to read what the 6 phase mediation is about.
In the six phase meditation, you imagine a golden or silver bright light that illuminates the crown of your head. This light is supposed to reconnect people with themselves and to the world and their spirit.
Call to action
- Click on the video below and Unblock all 7 of your Chakras with the guided Mediation.
- Write down on a piece of paper: What are you most afraid of?
What do you blame yourself for?
What are you ashamed of? What are your biggest disappointments in yourself?
What are you sad about? What were your losses?
What lies do you tell yourself and others?
- What are you attached to?
- Now take all your notes and burn them in order to free yourself.
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