Hello beautiful human,
Below you will find this week’s version of my newsletter “Behavior Weekly”, a list of things that I feel will make your life better.
💀Quote Of The Week
🎙New Podcast Episodes
In the 29th episode of the Psychology Podcast Dr. Nadine Macaluso, one of the world-leading therapists in the field of trauma bonds, author, and ex-wife to the infamous Jordan Belfort sat down with me in order to talk about her journey of becoming, what it was like for her to be portrayed in the box office hit ‘The Wolf of Wallstreet’ and how we can heal after we had a toxic relationship.
What is this episode about?
- How Dr. Nadine Macaluso became the person she is today.
- What Dr. Nadine Macaluso learned from being a famous model.
- The downsides of being beautiful.
- What Dr. Nadine Macaluso learned from her mother.
- What it was like for Dr. Nadine Macaluso to be married to the infamous wolf of Wallstreet Jordan Belfort.
- How to recover from traumatic love.
- How to detect toxic individuals.
- Why Dr. Nadine Macaluso became a therapist and world-leading expert in trauma bonds.
- What it’s like to be known by hundreds of millions of people.
- The dangers of naivety.
- How we can let go of beliefs that aren’t serving us.
- Questions everybody should ask themselves.
- Her most memorable cases.
Or watch on youtube below;
📺Video Of The Week
Richard Kuklinski: “The Iceman Tapes” (COMPLETE!)Richard Leonard Kuklinski (aka “Iceman”, “Big Rich”, “The One-man Army” and “The Devil himself”) was a devoted husband, loving father–and ruthless killer of over 100 people.
You’ll meet him in this powerful documentary that features one of the most vivid and disturbing interviews ever recorded–taped behind the walls of the prison where Kuklinski was, upon his death, serving two consecutive life sentences for multiple homicides.
Extra Credit; Write a case study about Kuklinski in order to become an expert in psychopathy!
The following questions will help you to write the case study;
- What went wrong in Kuklinski’s childhood?
- What were the early signs of anti-social behavior in his childhood?
- What emotional systems governed Kuklinski?
- What emotional systems were under-developed in Kuklinski?
- Did Kuklinski have a strong conscience?
- What did you notice about his relationship with boredom?
- What did you note about Kuklinski’s environment?
- Could Kuklinski forgive people?
- What virtues did Kuklinski not possess?
- What vices did Kuklinski possess?
- Do you believe that Kuklinski was doomed from the start to become a psychopath? Or do you think he could have been a force of good if he would have been put in a different situation?
- What aspects of yourself do you see in Kuklinski?
We all have challenges in our lives. While we are facing them, we often view them as big and scary, threatening our journey just like encountering a dragon.
Interestingly, most of our challenges turn into lessons once we have overcome them. Looking back, we usually find gold in the encounter of a dragon. Whether it is a new insight, a new skill you have developed in order to master the situation or simply gaining the proof that you were strong enough. You withstood it and gained confidence for any future dragon encounters.
“If it doesn’t challenge you, it doesn’t change you.”
There is a lot of truth to this slightly over-used Instagram quote. Uncomfort shapes and stimulates, triggers and strengthens, asks, and teaches which is why you will treat your challenges in this exercise as mentors!
📚Book Of The Week
Long Walk to Freedom: The Autobiography of Nelson Mandela
Nelson Mandela is one of the great moral and political leaders of our time: an international hero whose lifelong dedication to the fight against racial oppression in South Africa won him the Nobel Peace Prize and the presidency of his country. Since his triumphant release in 1990 from more than a quarter-century of imprisonment, Mandela has been at the center of the most compelling and inspiring political drama in the world.
The nomadic scholar is a content format in which I share with you travel tales, life lessons, and personal stories that I collected while I adventured around the world in order to find answers to the question; What constitutes a good person and how can I become one?
I’ve met this woman in a mosque while I was collecting stories from Muslims in Turkey in order to learn more about the human condition.
The cathedrals of Istanbul intrigued me to the degree where I couldn’t help myself but visit them daily in order to understand what it is about these holy places that make them holy.
I would often sit for hours on the warm carpets inside these mosques in order to understand the rituals of the pilgrims.
I would watch them, clean themselves in the dwells, put off their shoes, and enter the cathedral’s main halls.
Once in, they all looked up in awe of the 108 feet tall hall until they would find a spot in which they could pray undisturbed.
I was fascinated yet utterly confused by what I was witnessing…
Why no shoes?
Why the cleaning?
Why were people dressing up?
Why the spectacular architecture?
In the midst of my confusion, I discovered the woman in blue, and in my reaction towards her beauty, I found the answers that I was looking for.
She was the only person in the entire cathedral that wore a blue scarf and from afar she looked like a sapphire.
Something interesting happened when I sat next to her; I was suddenly hyper-aware of all the things that were wrong with me.
All of a sudden I noticed that my hair was wild and messy and I noticed a stench on my turtleneck and since I shot a movie earlier that day, I noticed all of a sudden that I smelled like a bag of old sports socks.
Why didn’t I notice these things before?
A light bold went off in my head and I realized that beauty is a gateway to betterment.
A judge that highlights that which is ugly or in need of cleaning/cleansing – both internally and externally.
I shared this story with you because I wanted to ask you to strengthen your covenant with beauty in order to help you to cleanse yourself of everything that is unworthy of your divine potential.
Dress like your ideal future self, make your home an expression of the best of you, cleanse yourself of your vices, and don’t let a day go by where you don’t make room for nature, poetry, art, cinema, architecture, or music.
Beautify yourself and you will beautify the world.
Thank you for reading.
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